If you want your relationship to soar and sing then you need to begin by accepting responsibility for where you are right now. You need to become the creator and author of your destiny. Just image what it would be like to have your own happily-ever-after love story. Hush for a moment the little critic inside of you that says, "It's not possible, or it's not for you."
Just take a few moments to imagine, in as much detail as you can, what that relationship would feel like, what it would look like, what you would do and say, what your partner would do and say.
Know that it is possible to have the "dream" come true. Not that we are going off to live in fantasy land, but here in reality we can have the relationship that we want and are willing to cultivate.
We begin by taking complete responsibility for our relationship at this moment. We completely give up blaming our partner or circumstances for anything. Blaming keeps us stuck and makes us powerless to improve things, since we must sit around waiting for our partner or our circumstances to change.
Just take a few moments to imagine, in as much detail as you can, what that relationship would feel like, what it would look like, what you would do and say, what your partner would do and say.
Know that it is possible to have the "dream" come true. Not that we are going off to live in fantasy land, but here in reality we can have the relationship that we want and are willing to cultivate.
We begin by taking complete responsibility for our relationship at this moment. We completely give up blaming our partner or circumstances for anything. Blaming keeps us stuck and makes us powerless to improve things, since we must sit around waiting for our partner or our circumstances to change.
When we don't take responsibility for creating our own love story, we can sometimes get things backwards. We think that if our partner would only do such and such, we would feel more loving toward them. The problem is that loving feelings follow loving thoughts and actions. When we are critical and judgmental about our partner our loving feelings fly out the door.
Focusing instead on what we love and enjoy about our partner and on how we can show our love for them, in other words increasing our loving thoughts and actions, will increase our loving feelings. Some may say that this is not fair, that they want to be getting more love, not giving more. You need to decide if you will hold stubbornly to that position waiting for your partner to suddenly change (you also may want to consider how that has been working for you to this point) or if you will take charge and create the relationship that you want.
Next we decide to be happy and grateful with what is. We embrace and enjoy our life as it is now, knowing that what we want is just around the corner. There is an eternal truth that we reap what we plant. When we approach our life from a position of happiness and gratitude, we are going to have good and positive things flowing back to us.
When we become the kind of partner that we want to have, our partner is likely to respond in kind. When we think loving thoughts about our partner, when we look for creative ways to consistently show our love for them, when we let our partner know in respectful ways what we need and want from them, when we are grateful and happy with our partner and in life, then our love story will begin to unfold.
When we hold that image, of what we want in our relationship, in our mind, and we approach life in harmony with that ideal, then we are going to create our own love story.