The Components of Romantic Love

Love is said to exist in 3 stages, lust, attraction, and attachment. And for most of us, this is a well known fact. However, what many of us may not realize is, recent studies have shown that the brain, releases a certain set of chemicals, when people are in love.

These chemicals include Pheromones, Dopamine, Norepinephrine and Serotonin. Without getting technical, the outcome is a feeling of euphoria or excitement.

This chemical effect and lust, is said not to last more than a couple of months, and is the initial emotion which is experienced in romantic love.

The second stage of Love is, attraction, and is usually based on physical attraction, common interest, and attributes, such as money, status, job title, standing in the community, popularity, etc.

The first two stages of love, lust and attraction, are NOT enough to create a long term relationship. The third stage of love, "attachment" is needed to sustain a long term relationship.

It should be noted, that attachment is avoided, at all cost by some lovers, especially if they have been hurt in the past. This usually is the case, when a couple has been dating for two or three months, and everything is great until one day, one partner makes a sudden move to exit the relationship. Fear of attachment can be a huge stumbling block, when trying to get your mate man or woman to say, "I do."

After the feeling of excitement and euphoria, wear thin after a couple of months, this is where mature actions, must be applied if a relationship is to last. For some, the lost of that euphoria is too much, and they follow the feeling to a new relationship and start all over again with someone new.

A love story follows the events when a couple makes it through all three stages. Movies, novels, and short love stories which provide this type of entertainment, provide a way for the viewer or reader to "remember," when they too felt that way. This type of entertainment reinforces our belief and faith in love.

A sad love story is when one partner doesn't make it through all the stages, and this type of entertainment helps us to mend our own broken heart in the process.-